Adult Children of

Toxic Parents 

It’s happened again…

 

Everything’s come crashing down around you. This isn’t the first time it’s happened. You feel like you’ve got to be perfect, like you’re not allowed to be human. But you’ve been trying so hard for so long, and now it feels like you just can’t make things work anymore. You’re exhausted. Hopeless. You feel like giving up.

But people don’t know this is what you learned to do, what you had to do, when you were little. Your parent(s) had problems—mental health issues, addiction, alcoholism—and you had to be the grownup. Your radar was going all the time, watching for any sign of danger, because you didn’t know if you were going to see the good parent or the bad one when you got home from school; it could be a normal day or it could be hell. So you had to be perfect, had to learn to cover, to keep the secret of what was going on at home. And most of the people in your life today have no idea how many balls you’ve been juggling. All they know is that when those balls come crashing down, they smash things. And it seems that always the finger is pointed at you.

It’s time to talk with someone who can meet you with compassion, not pity, someone who’s familiar with the fear and frustration you’re dealing with, someone who’s been trained in the workings of the mind and the heart. You’ll learn how to make decisions without second-guessing yourself, and to enter a room or hear raised voices without flinching. You’ll be able to go after your dreams because you’ll believe you can. You’ll be able to reclaim the person you were always meant to be.

Don’t spend another minute feeling powerless. Click below to schedule your consultation and get started on a path toward the life you really want.

 

How I Can Help

Mental Health Issues, Alcoholism, Addiction

Many parents struggle with mental health issues. Many wrestle with drugs and/or alcohol. Unfortunately, children of these parents pay an often devastating price. The radar that sometimes saved them in childhood now overfunctions in adulthood. The lack of safety still feels real, keeping them from trusting others. Even from trusting themselves.

In addition to my Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, I was raised by parents who both suffered from severe psychological issues that affected many aspects of my life. The good news is that today we have much more knowledge about both mental health issues and the effect of impaired parenting on children. With my clients, I use a combination of EMDR and talk-therapy, with a focus on attachment—and have seen them heal from incredible wounding. 

I have worked with people whose reports about their parents have included characteristics of Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, addiction to drugs and alcohol, and more. 

You don’t have to do this anymore. There’s hope. 

Contact Me

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For emergencies call 911 or visit your nearest hospital.

(253) 315-2595

33507 9th Ave S, Federal Way, WA 98003

lisa@lisafrasercounseling.com